Smitten //Mindfulness Matters Book Review
I literally just finished reading (more like devoured) Pax Tandon’s book, Mindfulness Matters: A Guide to Mastering your Life. I felt compelled to immediately start typing while my energy was still buzzing from her inspiring words. This was one of those books I didn’t want to put down and tried to squeeze in pages whenever I could. Not always easy with a 7 month old baby on the move, but a testament to how the book’s message drew me in. Her voice on living a mindful, examined life is one I’m very much aligned with and continue to aspire towards.
So let’s get into it.
Many of us go through the motions of our day on autopilot, rather than being fully present. The consequence of that is severe-we’re missing out on the big and seemingly small moments of our lives. Are you present in your relationships or while working or even while eating? Take notice during QT time with your significant other, friends or family as to how often your mind drifts to past or future worries. Notice how often you check your phone and be honest, are you really listening to them?
Pax’s mission is to inspire the world to elevate their awareness through mindful living and to start thriving, not just surviving. Her summary explains this often used, often misunderstood concept.
Living mindfully means being aware of what goes on around you, what impact you are having on others and also what goes on in your inner world, your thoughts, and your feelings. Mindful living makes us more reflective, less reactive, more empathic, compassionate and more authentic.
OMG, the world needs so much more of this right now.
She breaks her book down into 3 sections-Mind, Body-Spirit-and shares mindful habits to incorporate into each of these aspects of your life. I love that she gives concrete examples, along with writing prompts to reflect on and help process your personal experiences. She draws from her extensive studies and certifications in Positive Psychology, yoga teacher training, Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction, past life regression and not to mention her real life experience. What resonated with me is that she’s so relatable. She’s been through major heartbreaks and is navigating relationships. She’s honest and raw about her lessons learned, including how she uses meditation to regulate her emotions when she feels overwhelmed and stressed.
Here’s a peek into one of my favorite strategies.
Your network is your networth…How good is that? We take for granted that our health is everything. Her advice is to build a team of practitioners, starting with an integrative health specialist to help you prevent physical illness or mental exhaustion. This is a quite different approach than the norm, which is to go to a Dr, therapist, nutritionist, acupuncturist etc after a problem already exists. She believes that imbalances in your psychology will manifest as imbalances in your physicality. YES, as a therapist and from a holistic health perspective, I could not agree more!
After completing the last writing prompt (which was the most powerful for me) and reading her beautiful final message, I felt a surge of emotions. I was almost teary eyed as inspiration welled up inside of me. I just love a poignant ending that evokes such a response because it’s actually only the beginning of something life changing.