Stay or Walk?
Q: I really love my boyfriend of 8 years, but since we moved in together, we’ve been fighting constantly. We argue about the dogs, money, his partying…the list goes on. I’m considering leaving him. The thing holding me back is we have a history of breaking up and then getting back together. We’ve been through so much and we always come back to each other. I don’t know what to do.
A: It sounds like you already know in your heart what you should do. Fighting constantly is a glaring red flag that your personalities are not meshing well. Living together is the true test if a couple can make or break it. And you’re not seeing eye to eye on some pretty major issues, like money and lifestyle. If you want to stick it out and give it one last try, I would suggest couples counseling to help you both learn to communicate better. Give it a deadline and if things have not improved, it might be time to make a final break, as difficult and painful as it may be. 8 years of back and forth sounds stressful and to be honest-toxic. Sometimes, we become dependent on our significant others and get used to the drama, thinking that’s our norm. You may be holding on to this relationship because of your deep history, but with with no real sight of a promising future. You deserve happiness, girl. Go out there and get it.