Q: I met this really cute guy out at a bar one night and we clicked. We had the same sense of humor. We were texting for a few weeks and things seemed to be going so good! I was really excited about our first date coming up. The date, which by the way, HE planned and asked me out on. He was so detailed saying he would pick me up and he made a reservation for sushi at my favorite place. He even pre bought our movie tix. Then all of a sudden he went radio silent. I’ve texted him multiple times and have not gotten a response. WTF? I’m so confused!!
A: Ugh, that is so frustrating. I get it cause I’ve been there. I think we all have. It’s never easy when someone lays on the charm or you feel a strong connection and then-poof- they disappear without an explanation. It stings, but you have to remember, you don’t really know him. He doesn’t really know you. So, try not to take it too personal. You never know what the heck happened-maybe he got back with an ex, maybe he met someone new, maybe he’s just a big flake. Trying to analyze and figure out the reasons will drive you nuts. Whatever the reason, he showed you his true colors early on that he’s not serious or genuine, so maybe he saved you some time? Call up a GF to watch a movie or have a wine night. Have one last bitch fest about him, but then you have to let it go. Redirect your attention and energy on some positive and present people in your life. You’ll forget about whatever his name as quickly as he disappeared.