Q: My ex-boyfriend and I are both invited to our good friend’s birthday party. She’s renting a house in Palm Springs for the weekend, so it would be impossible to avoid him…and his new GF. I will admit that he has known the friend since childhood, but she and I have been through alot and are really close, too. I’ve never seen my ex with his girlfriend, so I’m worried because I don’t know how I will feel. I’m seriously contemplating making up an excuse and not going. Thoughts?
A: This is a tough one, but I really think you can celebrate with your girl and have a blast. Missing out on a fun weekend in SoCal with your close friend on her bday is giving your ex a lot of power. Don’t let him dictate how you feel and what events you miss out on. If you have mutual friends, you’re going to eventually have to see him and his new girl, so why not rip the bandaid off? Take the focus off you & your ex and onto your good friend who is planning a special weekend. Make it about her.
If you’re friendly when you see them there will be no awkwardness. Well, it will be a lot less awkward anyways. Sure, there may be moments you feel uncomfortable, but take a few deep breaths, take a dip in the pool, hang with the other guests. The main thing is redirect your attention on something or someone else. So, start packing your cutest swimsuits and summer dresses. You’re gonna want to look and feel hawt. Show up with a positive attitude and exude how amazing you are.