God I love this quote.
Falling in love with yourself first doesn’t make you vain or selfish, it makes you indestructible.
Ok, I don’t really know who this quote is by. I found it amidst the amazing craziness that is Pinterest, but it’s truth immediately stood out to me. I always thought it was cliche or cheesy when I read or was told to “Love yourself”. Like what did that even mean? Of course, I loved myself. I had high self esteem and was pretty confident for the most part. Or so I thought. I never fully understood the depth to what it meant to love myself until now. The only way I can think to explain such a complicated subject like this is to break it down into a list of actions that you can actually start doing right now!
♥ You are not your toes.
To truly love yourself is to accept all of your “so called” flaws. Yes, even your weird pinkie toe. Yes, even your lil pooch. Yes, even your blemished skin. The most beautiful thing is you are not your toes, you are not your stomach, you are not your skin. You are so much more than these physical attributes that may be out of our control. Let me ask you a question. What will people remember you for? You might say they will remember your contagious laugh, your generous heart or your spontaneity. See–there is nothing about a weird pinkie toe. Don’t forget that.
♥ Let that Sh*t go
Our self esteem is a collection of our past experiences and our current belief systems about ourselves. Starting when we are children, we start internalizing what our parents say, how friends and teachers treat us, how well we perform at school or on the field. This continues as we become adults and enter romantic relationships and we have successes and failures in our lives. All of these factors contribute to our self image. Maybe you had parents who constantly criticized you or you were in an emotionally abusive relationship or you never felt good enough because you couldn’t get into the college or company you dreamed of. Now is the time to stop holding on to those feelings of inadequacy and release them. They aren’t serving you, only inhibiting you further. Releasing negative emotions is not easy, but it is possible through reflection, journaling, venting, meditation and therapy.
♥ Girl, you so fine.
Talk positively about yourself to others (and yes, even in your own head!) We have a running script that plays in our heads day in and day out. You may have gotten used to the mean girl comments you say to yourself daily, such as “I’m so fat, ughhh”. Don’t let these comments become routine. Break the habit by catching yourself and immediately replacing the negative thought with a positive one. Instead of thinking, “I’m so fat,” replace that with “I am beautiful and I am enough.” Even if you don’t believe it, fake it til you make it. It takes time to retrain our minds to think positively and it’s key because when you get down on yourself, it makes you feel depressed and unmotivated. Then you aren’t exactly feeling pumped to put on your yoga pants and pop over to a spin class, are you? You’re more likely to grab some comfort food and plop down on the couch. Boost your self esteem with one positive thought at a time. Oh and I love this-write down a list of physical attributes, as well as qualities and talents you LOVE about yourself. Post it somewhere you’ll see it everyday.
♥ Stress is the Devil.
Show yourself some love by not allowing stress to consume you. As soon as you feel that surge of panic shoot through your body or mind, stop yourself and ask, can I control this or change this? If the answer is no, then take some deep breaths, remind yourself that stress and worrying are pointless and move on. Nothing is worth the awful things that stress can do to your body and mind. It releases cortisol which ages you, causes weight gain, causes headaches, stomach problems, Depression, Anxiety, high blood pressure, heart disease…need I go on? Stress is inevitable, so find a coping skill that helps you deal. Daily yoga or meditation can help prepare you to better handle stressful situations. Those are my go-tos.
♥ Bitch, please.
Demand that others treat you with respect and love through your own example. You’ve probably heard the saying, We teach others how to treat us by what we allow, what we stop and what we reinforce. If anyone treats you poorly, you have to assertive (it’s that nice medium between being aggressive and passive) and communicate how you feel. When that doesn’t work, walk away from any toxic relationships if possible or minimize your time in those situations.
#Treatyoself isn’t just a trendy hashtag that applies to getting that extra scoop of mint chocolate chip ice cream..it’s actually solid advice. We get so caught up in the daily grind of school, work, family, significant others…where does that leave us? If we are running on empty, we have nothing left to give. So, make yourself a priority GF. Schedule in time for workouts, hobbies, bubble baths, book club..whatever helps you to recharge and be your best self.