Business Woman, and Cool Chick.
Gabrielle Bernstein is f’in amazing. She’s a combination of Rachel Zoe, Carrie Bradshaw and Marianne Williamson-3 of my faves.
Her reviews say it all…
She is Oprah approved, naming her “a next-generation thought leader”.
“A decade ago, young women like Ms. Bernstein might have been expected to chase the lifestyle of high heels and pink drinks…But now there is a new role model for New York’s former Carrie Bradshaws…well versed in self-help and New Age spirituality…Ms. Bernstein is one of a circle of such figures, influenced less by the oeuvre of Candace Bushnell than that of Marianne Williamson.”
—The New York Times
“I came to one of Bernstein’s monthly lectures and got my first look at the woman I’d one day unabashedly refer to as “my guru.” —ELLE Magazine
A self proclaimed, “spirit junkie,” Gabrielle is a petite powerhouse who speaks from the heart and shares her truth with the world. Listen to this girl talk–she is passionate! It radiates from her. Her work is to teach about the immense power of meditation and spirituality that ultimately leads to discovering immense power in ourselves.
I loved hearing her back story, as she shares how her childhood shaped her thoughts on love and self worth…and how she ultimately overcame those self inhibiting thoughts. I’ll give you the shortened version, but check out her full talk at Wanderlust here. At a young age, she learned that her father valued success. She would often watch her brother earning her father’s love with his many successes in sports. When she landed an acting job as a child, she finally felt that validation from him. She began to equate outside successes with love, which fueled her drive to keep attaining this love. This pushed her to be an extremely motivated 21 year old who started a successful PR business in NYC. She promoted the hottest clubs and reached a level of success she always dreamed of, but she still felt a dark void within. She fell into the nightclub scene and began doing drugs and partying hard. She was lost. As she sat in her apartment one early morning, still awake from partying the night before, with a drug dealer and woman she had met the night before, she had her epiphany, she finally woke up. She looked around her apartment at the stack of self help books piled next to her bed. It hit her, she was meant for much more. She announced, I’m going to be a motivational speaker and a self help author.
The rest is history. She put her PR background to work and created an empire. The beauty is that she is using her powerful presence to spread light and encourage personal development. I’m so drawn in to her inspirational lessons. I literally feel like I’m on a natural high after listening to her speak because I feel so energized and motivated. I’ve learned not to watch her videos before bed! In a series of posts, I will share mini lessons of hers that I’m personally incorporating into my life. The first big one that resonated with me is how to do what you’re dreaming of.
Like a lot of you, I’m not in love with my day job. To put it mildly. I have an undeniable desire to follow my passions, to be creative, and to share my truth with the world through writing. In particular, my dream has always been to be a successful blogger and write a book. I’ve spent 5 years volunteering (aka no moo-lah) as editor and advice columnist of various websites, hoping to gain experience and break into the world of journalism. A publisher approached me to turn the site concept into a book, which ignited a confidence in me. In the end, the big bosses did not agree with her and my proposal was rejected. But I took her advice and got a book on publishing and learned everything I could about sending a query letter, writing a book proposal and finding an agent. I sent my proposal to numerous agents. I even had a meeting with a publisher, but unfortunately, nothing transpired and I received a few more rejection emails.
Did I enjoy the process? Absolutely. Writing is therapeutic for me. Did I drive myself a lil nuts because I really, really wanted to accomplish this goal? Yep.
After watching Gabby’s video, it made a lot of sense. I realize now that I was working towards my goals from a place of want, so the energy(or vibration) I was giving off was fear based and anxious. I felt like I HAD to get a book deal or I was a failure. We all tell ourselves some crazy ass messages, don’t we? I know that’s not true, I’m obviously not a failure, but I still had that self defeating thought running through me. Gabby explains that this manic energy of trying to control and push something to happen can actually block you from attracting the very things you’re working so hard to achieve. Crazy, right? So, I’m going to give it another go, but approach the creative process from a very different place. Your energetic alignment has to be in that of desire, vision and action. The desire must come from a place of joy and service, not want. As for the vision, you have to believe it before you see it. To do this, she suggests you meditate for 2 min a day in a creative visualization, and in that excitement, in that joy, let your dreams overtake you. She emphasizes, “Be in daily contemplation of what you want to manifest. You will create an attractive energy that will conjure up what you desire”. And of course, lots of action is required.
So, this was my big block. What’s yours?
In the video, Gabbie goes over many of the negative beliefs that hold us back from doing what we’ve been dreaming of. She talks us through how to change our perception in order to change our energy. Any of these sound familiar??
- Not sure how to transition from current job to a new career
- Idea overload
- Who am I to be great?
- Financial fears
- Not knowing your purpose
- Fear of failure
- Too many other people are doing it
- I need to do it all myself
- Who will listen, who will be my audience?
- Where do I start?
Gabbie’s assignment instructs you to make a list of all that you are dreaming of and free write for 10 min. Be unapologetic. Write YES I CAN at the top. This will be your material for your 40 day visual meditation. Get after it, ladies! What are you waiting for?