Q: Why do I keep falling for guys that are wrong for me?? They end up being complete jerks. Help, I’m so over it!
A: Unfortunately, we are sometimes attracted to people for the wrong reasons. You might be physically attracted to someone initially, so they capture your attention, but you soon realize their personality sucks. Or you might be a nurturer type and attract partners who need a constant cheerleader. Or you might be drawn to someone’s spontaneous and fun nature, but realize they have commitment issues. There are endless scenarios. It might not feel like it in the moment, but these are ALL fabulous lessons. They bring you closer to figuring out the type of person you don’t want and the type of person you do actually want to spend your life with!
If you are drawn to unhealthy relationships, you want to take a look within and dig deep to figure out why you may be attracted to/or are attracting the type of people who are not your best matches. Whether you had poor relationships with your family or previous partners or you need to work on yourself, do that first before getting invested in another bad relationship. It can be difficult to be objective when looking at ourselves, so maybe have a heart to heart with someone you trust. Also, write down a list of qualities that you find to be crucial in a partner-such as loyalty, sense of humor, intelligence etc. Actively seek out a person out who has these qualities in the future.
Trust the timing of your life. I’m a firm believer in this. The right person will come into your life at the right time.